How to tell at work that I'm quitting. Rules for a good job termination

Part 1

Preparing to Talk to Your Boss

• Do not write about dismissal in in social networks. Make sure your boss and colleagues are aware of this, and only then spread the news to the whole world.

1. Leave personally. Even if you and your boss live in different parts of the country, you should do your boss a favor and meet with him in person to discuss that you are leaving the company. Even if you are not very close or hostile towards this person, you should try to talk face to face instead of sending a letter or email notification. A face-to-face conversation proves that you take your job seriously and are willing to put in the time and effort to make good memories of yourself.

   • If your boss lives in another country, a phone call takes precedence over an email or written notice.

2. Think about what you will do if you receive a counter offer. You may be surprised at how quickly your boss will give you a counteroffer to keep you in the company. If your main complaint is not enough material compensation, that's a good enough reason to stay. If that's the case, think about what kind of salary might force you to stay. This is important to know before starting a conversation with the boss, so as not to give the wrong number during the conversation.

   • If you're making at least $100k a year, you can't settle for $50k just to make your boss happy. Such a decision can only be made if your main problem is a small salary. Money cannot cover all the problems you may experience at work.

3. Make sure you have a transition plan in place. Once you've submitted your resignation letter, your boss will want to know how you're going to finish your current business. You should have a plan for completing current projects, transferring job responsibilities, explaining the specifics of the position, transferring old clients. You need to make sure that the company's work will go smoothly without your presence. Such actions will impress your boss, and you will look at the situation through the eyes of an optimist.

   • Decisions like this demonstrate that you've put a lot of work into the company and you care about what's going on.

4. Be prepared to leave your job the day you apply. Even if you have a plan to move to another job, you may find that an evil boss demands that you leave immediately. If this is the case, you should be ready to pack your things as soon as possible. Don't pack before talking to your boss. You must make sure you take everything Required documents from the office if you are asked to leave immediately.

   • Fortunately, such demands of the boss happen quite rarely, but it is quite possible that he will get angry or throw out his emotions. Get ready to move on to the next step.

5. Think about what you will do if you are asked to stay longer. Maybe your boss will ask you to stay for a week or two to help the company get back on its feet. If the date of the transition to a new job does not matter, and you are not indifferent to the fate of the company, you need to ask yourself if you are ready for this.

   • If you want to take a short break between quitting and moving on to a new job, make sure that you are firmly convinced of this before talking to your boss. Besides, you quit and your boss can't force you to stay. This is only possible if some of the company's affairs cannot be resolved without you.

   Part 2

   Boss conversation

   1. Submit your resignation. During a conversation with the boss, the most important task is to behave calmly and pleasantly. Just say that you are leaving work, indicate the date of the last working day and thank your boss for the opportunity to work in his company. Your boss will ask you a few questions about this and you can go over the details. Don't talk about your decision. The most important thing is to clearly state your decision and not delay the term of dismissal.

      • This conversation will not be fun or easy, but you will feel relieved when you talk about your decision. Don't waste time on empty talk and communicate it directly.
      • Make sure you choose the right words. Indicate that you are embarrassed to report such news. It's better to say you're quitting than to say you've had enough.

   3. Explain what is happening in a few words. Don't go into detailed reasons for leaving your job. If you leave a job without insurance, you do not need to explain why you liked your position so much. If you are moving on to another job, you can say that you have improved your career goals. Don't talk about a pay raise at another job. Do not mention that you were not considered for anyone in your position.

      • Your boss may ask you if you are changing jobs or try to find out the details of a new position. You are not required to go into details. You can simply say that you are excited about new opportunities.

   4. Specify the details. Most likely, you are so passionate about leaving that you completely forgot about the future. It is very important to clarify the formal nuances before leaving the boss's office. Ask about additional payments and last salary. Ask about extra days off and sick leave. Find out if you can get insurance or transfer funds to another company. If the boss is too angry with you, you can ask about it later. It is best to get answers during personal communication.

      • It is very important to understand all the benefits before leaving. Don't pass up an opportunity to get financial compensation just because you feel guilty about being fired.

   5. Ask your boss to find a replacement. If you care about the company's success, your best bet is to offer to help find a replacement so that the position doesn't stay vacant for too long. You know your job from the inside like no one else and can provide a huge service. You can even give the new person job recommendations if you have time for that. Your boss will not have such a hard time, and he will not react so violently to your dismissal.

      • If you feel that you have nothing to do with this company, you do not have to look for a replacement. If you have a good relationship with the boss, you can help him.

   6. Avoid being overly emotional. Getting fired can be emotional, especially if you've had difficult feelings about your job. Maybe you have worked in one place for a long time. If you want everything to go as smoothly as possible, avoid irritation and keep your cool. Don't say things you might regret. Take a deep breath if you feel like you are losing your balance.

      • If you and your boss had trusting relationship Naturally, you will be sad. It is very important to remain calm in order to bring the plan to life and not succumb to persuasion.

   7. Try to tune in positively instead of complaining about life. Maybe you want to list your boss's worst ten qualities or describe every little thing you don't like about your job, but you should avoid thinking like that. They are not productive and your boss will get angry or upset. Making recommendations about how you can improve your company is one thing, but if you intend to leave, focus on what you liked about the organization instead of complaining or lamenting.

      • If you need to complain about a job, tell close friend about what you didn't like about your job. When talking to your boss, focus on the positives. If you can't think of anything, it's best to keep quiet.

   8. Thank your boss for everything he has done for you. Even if the conversation didn't go smoothly or ended on a negative note, it's important to walk away with gratitude on your lips. Let your boss know that he has done a lot for you, and you are grateful for his work and skills. Look your boss in the eyes and sincerely thank him. You will leave a positive impression and it will be easier for you to move on.

      • You might want to think ahead of time about listing the projects your boss helped you with or the personalities you developed with your boss.

      Part 3

      Shutdown

      1. Let co-workers know about your layoff. Pick a time and tell your employees that you are leaving the company. It is not necessary to tell each employee separately. If you rarely communicate with some employees, you can notify them using email. If there are people in the company with whom you have built a good relationship or have worked together for a long time, you will understand that they are upset with your decision. Tell these people personally about your decision and demonstrate that you care and will miss them.

         • No need to bring information down on employees. Do not present information casually or in a hurry. Most likely, such news will make an emotional impression on colleagues.

      2. You should not denigrate your previous work and tell bad aspects to your colleagues. You may feel better when you finally quit, but that doesn't mean your employees feel the same way. Avoid gossip about work. Don't say bad things about the boss. Don't say you can't wait to work in a new job. Stuff like that sets a bad tone. Your colleagues will feel bitter and angry that you are leaving.

         • Such behavior is bad for colleagues who are looking for a new job but do not see the search results. They will be sad and embarrassed.
         • If you complain about your old job, the rumors may reach your boss and your relationship will deteriorate.

      3. Stay exactly as long as agreed. If you've promised your boss that you'll stay for a week or two, stick to that time frame. You want to leave on a positive note. No need to pack your bags right away just because you feel like it. Try to make a positive impression and keep your last promise at work.

         • You want your boss to give you a positive reference for a future job, so don't do anything that might change his opinion of you.

      4. If necessary, write official letter. Some companies request a formal letter of resignation after the application is submitted. This is done for documentation, so you need to write a friendly, logical and clear letter. All that is required of you is to provide the name of your boss, specify that you are leaving your job and indicate the date of dismissal. It is your right to indicate or not to indicate the reason for dismissal. Don't give a negative reason for leaving or go into detail about what you don't like about the company.

         • Make sure to keep your cool while writing the letter. Your company will keep it on file and can pass it on to your future employer so you don't have to write something you'll regret later. What is written with a pen cannot be cut down with an axe.

      5. Show respect. Before you leave your job, it's important to take the time to thank the people who worked alongside you. These people include your boss, managers, company employees, customers, and those people with whom you communicated in a work environment. Your behavior demonstrates that you have put a lot of effort into your work and value your time, and that you do not leave arrogantly. You can write small thank you cards to show respect, or just take the time to show people that you appreciate each of the company's employees.

         • You may think that your job is thankless, and that is why you want to get rid of it as quickly as possible. Gratitude is a sign of respect. Try to appease your pride and find something to thank the person for.

      6. Complete all pending projects. IN last days in the workplace, you need to make every effort to finish all the unfinished business projects so that the boss and the organization do not experience problems after you leave. You can work on finishing projects, help other employees, find replacements, or just complete all the things that can't be done without you. You need to make a list of tasks that need to be completed before you leave, so as not to leave your boss at a loss.

         • Of course, it is not always possible to wrap up absolutely all the unfinished projects that you have been involved in during the last two or three weeks of work in the organization.

      7. If you decide to announce your new job on social media, do it gracefully. You can tell people that you're excited to start a new job, but you shouldn't bring up your previous position or say that you understood everything about your past organization. Don't say that you're leaving this horrible place for the sake of being tired of working with incompetent idiots. Your colleagues may not necessarily be friends with you on Facebook, but you should be careful with your language, as people will find a way to figure out that you are backbiting them.

         • In addition, if your organization notices your terrible status, the question of your reliability and how much you can be trusted will be raised. People don't want to have anything to do with you.

      8. Focus on getting the job done until you quit. Chances are you find it impossible to focus solely on work in the last two weeks when you already know that there are huge opportunities ahead of you. But you need to try and work on projects. Be friendly to co-workers, be considerate in meetings, and perform your duties every day. You need to try your best - you don't want people to remember your bad attitude.

         • Most importantly, stay at work throughout the day. Don't leave early. It's considered bad manners and you're showing that you're too good for your job. You don't want to be remembered that way.

      9. Don't forget to leave a positive impression. The most important thing is to correctly allocate time at work. Even if you feel like you work in a terrible environment where everyone is lying and slandering, you need to rise above it and not tell people what you really think of them. Smile and make sure you are remembered as a happy and hardworking person. Your boss will be giving you a referral, and you can't undo all your work just because you've been rude during your last weeks in the organization.

         • Even if you feel like venting your pent-up resentments to your boss or boss for five seconds, remember that worsening relationships with these people can have a lasting impact on your career path.

Hello dear readers! Recently, a girl came to me for an appointment in a terribly emaciated state. She practically did not sleep and did not eat, serious problems began in relations with the guy. For a long time we could not understand what was the matter and what was the main reason for the depressed state. But as soon as I started talking about her work, it became obvious that the girl simply did not know how to tell her boss about her dismissal and because of this she was going through a serious emotional crisis. Today I want to talk to you about how and when is the best time to approach management with a conversation about being fired, what you definitely shouldn't do in the end, and where you can find support in this situation.

Do not cut off the shoulder

When you have finally decided to leave your current job, be sure to check out Mikhail Tikhomirov's book " Dismissal from work. Practical guide". It contains tips and practical advice to any question that concerns this sensitive topic. You must know your rights and understand how to act if the situation takes an unexpected turn.

Of course, I always advocate reconciliation. What are your reasons for wanting to leave? If it's all about money, then I have a wonderful article for you - "". After all, if you are satisfied with the atmosphere in the team, you like your job, then you can always try to negotiate with your boss about bonuses and bonuses.

One of my acquaintances decided to leave of his own free will from a wonderful place because of. I asked him not to rush and try to resolve the situation. First, with the conflicting colleague himself. After all, you can find a way out of any situation. But that person turned out to be so slippery that any conversations were meaningless. Then I advised a friend to contact the boss.

Today my friend works in another branch, holds a higher position and has a wonderful team under him. But he could have freaked out, quit, and no one knows how soon he would have found a new place.

If you decide to quit and you don’t see any other option, then let’s figure out how to do it right, not to spoil relations with the authorities and the team, to leave beautifully and in a good way.

What exactly should not be said and done

The most common mistake is to tell the manager that you are leaving today. At a minimum, this is unprofessional and unethical on your part, and at a maximum, you are setting your boss up.

It is necessary to announce your departure two weeks before X-day. Therefore, be prepared to work for another half a month, transfer things to a new person, put everything in order so as not to leave behind a chaos of papers and unfinished business.

The second mistake that employees make very often in such a conversation with management is that they begin to scold the company, speak negatively about other employees, and be rude to the boss. Never allow yourself to behave like this.

If you really want to point out the real problems in the company, then it would be better to calmly discuss all the moments that did not suit you, that you are not happy with, alone with your boss. But this must be done in a soft and correct manner.

We return to the question of money. Management should not say phrases like: you pay me too little; in our office, salaries are an order of magnitude lower than those of competitors, and so on. The authorities will not regard such statements as you would like. Remember that they will write recommendations for you and think carefully about your speech. If you want to mention money, then choose soft and neutral words.

Don't discuss your dismissal with your co-workers before you talk to your boss. Leadership, whatever your relationship, should always be the first to know such news.

The conversation about your care should be personal. The worst option is to write a letter or leave a message on the answering machine. Do not transmit such statements through third parties. Take courage and calmly talk to the leader.

It is unpleasant for any person to hear nasty things addressed to him or his offspring, and this is how the authorities perceive the company. Therefore, I advise you to simply wish everyone good luck, thank you for everything that you were able to acquire in this company and leave behind only a pleasant impression.

Once my friend left a firm with a scandal. He put on a real circus performance, thinking that he would never run into these people again. Imagine what his surprise was when the previous leader from the same company soon turned out to be the boss in the new place.

Try to maintain good and good relations both with the management of the office and with colleagues. After all, you never know how things will turn out. You may need their help in the future, or you may encounter at work. Moreover, you yourself can ruin your recommendations for a future job.

Being human in any situation is the most helpful advice which you can follow.

prepare the ground

The dumbest option would be to quit. Get ready. Find another place, go to interviews. I have a great article that will help you prepare perfectly for a conversation with a possible future leader: "".

Ask for support from your loved ones. Reach out to your parents, friends, or your significant other. Say that you are going through a difficult period and you need help. You can directly say: I'm afraid and I need your support. We need close people just for this, to help and be there in difficult times. Ask for advice, perhaps it is your mother who will tell you what words are best to use in a conversation with the director.

When you already quit and start a new job, then my article "" will be extremely useful to you. In it, I give a lot of useful and practical recommendations that will one hundred percent help you build relationships with new colleagues and superiors.

Why did you decide to leave your current position? Is there any way to improve the situation without resorting to dismissal? Have you already found another place?

Be calm, do not criticize, speak softly and correctly.
Good luck to you!

Posted On 12/28/2017

Most employees think about quitting once a day. That's the statistics. The reasons for the desire to quit can be different, ranging from mobbing (psychological pressure) and professional burnout. ending with discontent salary and impossibility of further career growth. In general, no matter what was the reason to change one company to another, the decision is made. The question arises - how to quit?

How to quit and make the process of dismissal as painless as possible for both nervous system and for a career? It's one thing to tell your boss that you're not happy with literally everything on this meta, to state that it's bad organization and leave, defiantly slamming the door.

How to quit your job the right way

What is the best way to leave work without unpleasant consequences? Every organization has an unspoken rule about quitting a job. In some organizations, it is customary to give two weeks' notice before dismissal, as required by law. In others, it is required to notify the authorities two to three months in advance. It depends on the specifics of the organization.

For example, management needs to find a replacement for you. Plus, you should have time to train a beginner.

How to resign

You received an attractive job offer and firmly decided to quit your current job. It would seem that the matter is small: inform the boss about this, write a letter of resignation, get paid - and hello, new life! But for some reason, your legs always carry you past the manager’s office, you put off a difficult conversation, you feel awkward in front of your colleagues…

How to quit your job with the least losses for your career and nervous system? Before taking the plunge, check out Superjob.ru's recommendations.

This situation is familiar to many: a new employer is already preparing for you workplace, and the current one is not yet aware that the launch of a new project and a corporate celebration will take place without your participation.

How to tell the director about the dismissal

Report to management decision you need as soon as possible. Firstly, this must be done because, according to the Labor Code, the employer has the right to issue you documents and issue a dismissal order within two weeks from the date of your application with a request to dismiss you of your own free will. Don't forget to put the date on it. when it is submitted.

Secondly, it will be much better and more honest if the director learns about your decision directly from you, and not from one of your colleagues, who, of course, will be aware.

Today, the labor market has a sufficient number of offers with various conditions work. But, even having chosen a job of their own free will and having worked on it for several months or even years,

In the future, something may not suit you. There can be many reasons, and you have every right to look for more favorable conditions. At work, a person spends 2/3 of his daily time (considering night sleep), and you don’t want to spend this time in an uncomfortable atmosphere.

So, having weighed all the minuses and pluses of your work, you nevertheless inclined to the conclusion that this “path” is not for you.

How to tell your boss about being fired

The classics write that telling the truth is easy and pleasant. But only not in the case when this truth can offend someone who trusts you. Telling your boss about your dismissal is not an easy task if the decision you made is due to proprietary interests, in particular, economic benefit rather than a growing conflict of interest.

So: serious changes in life await you, and they are associated with a tempting offer for a new job.

How to tell your boss you're fired

Dismissal is a normal practice in the career of any employee. However, for the employer it is always stress and material losses. How to part with the employer so as to maintain good relations with the former bosses and colleagues?

It is always pleasant and profitable to maintain a good relationship with a former employer. Uncultured dismissal can destroy all the time of stubborn and quality work, leaving the boss and colleagues with an unpleasant impression of themselves, which can spoil further career development.

“One way or another, each of us has to change jobs.

How to quit gracefully? Here are the recipes

Some employees have psychological difficulties when they want to quit. In particular, how to tell your boss about it. Here are some tips...

Make sure you are making the right move; don't do it out of anger or judgment in order to prove something to someone, or in the hope of convincing others how much they need you.

Well, if you decide, then bring it to the attention of the boss personally, unless you have absolutely no relationship with the boss.

If you decide to leave the office of your own free will, you must tell your immediate supervisor about this. Bosses don't like arrogance.

In the article, I will outline 5 smart phrases that you can use as a cheat sheet.

Please, sacredly remember that having quit, there is a huge chance to return to your previous job.

This is not me telling you, but our difficult time echoes.

Never write a resignation letter without informing your boss. This is an unforgivable mistake.

Yes, you thought it over and decided to leave.

Another important rule! If possible, do not say where you are going and by whom.

Nikolai Anatolyevich, I have an urgent conversation with you. Due to family circumstances, I had to quit my job. I'm sorry, but it's hard for me to talk about this. It is possible that the problems will be solved within a few months.

(This is in case you do not hold out in a new place).

Marina Pavlovna, I'm sorry to let you down. My husband lost his job and I was offered a higher paying position. I had to agree. Here I wrote a statement of my own free will (if no one is around, and you are a woman, shed a tear).

Anton Sergeevich, I have a problem. My sister (do not slander your neighbor) is seriously ill, and there is no one to look after her.

How to tell your boss you're fired

Constantly asking for time off, you yourself understand - this is letting you down. I have no choice but to quit of my own free will, sitting on the neck of an enraged husband.

German Lvovich, it is not easy for me to tell you about this, but I am resigning. Understand correctly, two children, the wife does not work - she was laid off. From managers I go to managers, but only with a higher salary. We don't expect wage increases.

Roman Igorevich, I don't even know how to tell you. I do not have a report in my hands, but a statement initiated by the employee. Purely by chance, I found a job near my home, and the salary is one and a half times higher. I know that this is not mine, but the children are growing, the demands are increasing.

In all cases, you tell your boss about the forced dismissal, regretting that you have to go on about various kinds of circumstances.

It is not uncommon for management, fearing to lose a valuable employee, to knock you out for a more decent salary.

The material was prepared by me - Edwin Vostryakovsky.

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How to say about dismissal to the head of the phrase

How do you tell your boss you're fired?

How to tell the boss about the dismissal, because sooner or later each of us has to change jobs.

And then a series of questions is born: How to tell the boss about the dismissal in such a way as to maintain your reputation? How to avoid conflict during dismissal?

How do you present this information to your superiors?

A well-written letter of resignation is the first step to a new life. First you need to correctly draw up a letter of resignation.

How to Tell Your Boss I'm Quitting

If you are determined, then make a decision, and pulling rubber will only be worse for you; if you are tuned in, then make a decision, and pulling rubber will only be worse for you. We are mobile people and should not depend on own feeling guilt.

If there is an opportunity to change something, it is necessary to act and dot all the I. If you say it faster, you are better off.

Psychological rules for dismissal of an employee

How do I tell my boss that I want to quit?

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0) I want to invite you to realize a few things: - Any worker is not the property and not a serf of his boss. Feeling guilty about leaving him is unnatural. - It is natural for any boss to have thoughts “they leave me because I am bad ?!”.

And it's good if it flashes!! If not.

how to tell the boss about the dismissal who quit, tell me, plz, HOW to do it (the psychological aspects are of interest - I have no idea how to tell the manager about this, what moment to choose and in general.

) wait until he runs into you, and say “And it’s all gone”, with him, roll up a statement and leave to start realizing for yourself that dismissal is normal. people always strive for the best, which means you have found or believe that you will find, best use your abilities (this is if you just change jobs).

What not to say when dismissing: 17 common mistakes

Business Insider publishes some advice on what not to say to your boss when you quit, from the authors of popular books on careers and marketing, Lynn Taylor and Dana Manshiali. The CPU provides an adapted translation of the article.

When a person plans to change jobs, he, as a rule, wants to tell the authorities everything as it is, and leave the annoying place, speaking out.

Getting fired: 5 common mistakes

When an employee has firmly decided to quit, he is bursting to tell everyone about it.

Of course, how not to gossip about such an event! But before you sell your secret, consider is it safe?

There are other reasons why it is better not to talk about your upcoming dismissal.

How to quit your job?

Perhaps your colleagues are not angels, and the boss is just a despot. Even in this case, do not rush to shout about the sore.

On life path there are a lot of twists and turns, there remains the possibility of meeting again with one of the former colleagues. And if you are sure that you will not need their help in a new job, you can always run into them in the same train compartment. If you are a valued employee, your employer may offer you a promotion or higher pay.

How do you tell your boss you're fired?

Regardless of the reasons that forced the employee to start looking for a new job, sooner or later you need to tell management about this, but how do you tell the boss “I'm quitting”?

Unfortunately, some people have problems at this stage.

Some employees are afraid to announce the transition to a new job.

How to leave

After two years of belt-tightening amid budget cuts, with employees having to work harder for less, IT professionals at all levels are gearing up for another leap forward.

Some employees have psychological difficulties when they want to quit. In particular, how to tell your boss about it. Here are some tips...

Make sure you are making the right move; don't do it out of anger or judgment in order to prove something to someone, or in the hope of convincing others how much they need you.

Well, if you decide, then bring it to the attention of the boss personally, unless you have absolutely no relationship with the boss. Do not send an e-mail or leave a note to the manager in his mailbox. Ask for an audience for a one-on-one conversation.

Be prepared to ask why. It's better to be honest, unless, of course, you are worried about the prospect of sincerity burning the remaining bridges. If you have evidence, tell your boss what you don't like: the management style, atmosphere and principles of the company, or too long working hours. By saying this, you will do the boss a good service. On the other hand, if the boss is tyrannical and doesn't take criticism, then use a safe phrase like "don't want to miss out on this great opportunity" or "it wouldn't hurt to get experience in another area."

If your boss reacts painfully to your decision, it will reflect on him, not on you. Always be professional - state that you enjoyed the job, but you have other plans, besides, you will provide a smooth exit. The boss, if he is the right person, should congratulate you and express regret in connection with your departure, or, in addition, ask what could be done so that you want to stay.

You must notify your decision in advance - at least two weeks in advance, unless, of course, you want to completely burn bridges and tarnish your reputation, which may haunt you later.

Evaluate the actions of your boss when other employees are fired. Were they immediately pointed to the door, or, let's say, were they exhibited earlier than the deadline for which they expected? If so, notify the chief two weeks in advance, period. If the boss belongs to another category of people who gratefully accepts more early dates notifications and does not terrorize those leaving, draw the appropriate conclusions from this. The boss will love it.

Ensure a smooth transition to the "after you" period and then quit. For example, leave at the workplace all the necessary documents, contacts, passwords, etc. Do not leave unanswered e-mail, help the successor get in the know if there is time, and ensure order in the workplace. You can just in case leave the phone to the successor, if he suddenly has questions.

After notification of your intention to quit, stay focused, do not be late and leave work early, demonstrate the same approach to work as before, otherwise you may damage your reputation. As with divorce, how a person quits will say a lot about him. Behave with dignity, because the paths with former colleagues may overlap in the future.

Many employees are afraid of conflict at work. Therefore, unquestioningly perform additional tasks. Colleagues and the manager address such an employee. A person pulls his work, performs additional tasks, stays overtime. The question arises, a soft person or a coward? The main reason why employees agree to an additional workload is the fear of dismissal or loss. As practice shows, it is not possible to gain authority and break into leadership positions by pleasing others. How do you say "no" to your boss?

Why are we afraid of rejection?

At work, it is not customary to act alone. Help among colleagues is needed. If there is no mutual assistance, then this is no longer a team. Everyone does a certain piece of work, not caring about the result. Therefore, mutual assistance should be in the team. Under this concept lies the voluntary and mutual provision of assistance. But, more often it happens differently. Colleagues and the manager find a workhorse and take on additional tasks.

Why are we afraid of rejection? Employees are driven by the following reasons:

1. Desire to prove yourself as a responsible employee. At first, it even works. But, the volume of tasks will melt, and no one has canceled the main work. As a result, the employee makes mistakes and gets reprimanded.
2. . There is a category of people who believe that only by doing other people's tasks and helping others, they become necessary. Direct duties and own desires fade into the background. The main thing is to please others.
3. Desire to become an indispensable employee. Such a person represents a universal and unique employee, without whom the boss is afraid to take a step.

Modest natures or people who eschew conflicts are afraid to say “no”. It is easier for such individuals to comply with the request than to object. If you recognize yourself in the above description, then it's time to fight back.

Why should you learn to say "no"?

Even if regular consent is not a fear or a trait of character, but a developed strategy, the consequences cannot be avoided. Fatigue accumulates, resulting in breakdowns. A person has to stay overtime or fill up the main work. Why ?

1. Employees and boss do not appreciate. You get used to good things quickly. If you heard the characteristics of such an employee, you would be surprised. He is described as a person who never refuses and does any job. If at some point you have to refuse because of a good reason, then they will also be offended by you.
2. There is a psychological and. It takes a lot of effort to pull multiple tasks. There is no time for proper rest, the fear of not completing the task leads to stress. Emotions on the edge. In this state, the employee will not last long.
3. Resentments appear. A subordinate who plows for two or three after a while is dissatisfied. It seems to him that the boss does not appreciate and does not respect. Such thoughts lead to open conflict with the boss. An angry and overwhelmed employee expresses everything he thinks.

The result of the consequences is dismissal, voluntary or at the direction of the head. It turns out that the fear of saying “no” led to the loss of a job. The fears still came true. Plus lost strength, health and interest in work.

To develop, get promoted and be an individual, do not forget about own interests. When you apply for a job, you get job description that contains obligations. For the quality of the tasks you get a certain salary. Additional load is not paid, so stand up for your rights. How do you say "no" to your boss?

• Feel free to talk about workload. The manager instructs you to complete the task, without understanding what you are doing. Explain that you cannot start the task because you are preparing a report, preparing documents for the bank, writing a procedure. This technique is called "yes, but no." The boss will draw conclusions and assign the task to any employee or release you from the current work.
• Ask questions and clarify. After the boss has made a request, clarify the details. How urgently you need to complete the task, what is the result, how important this case is. Then ask how to be with the current job. Let the leader evaluate which task is more important and give clear recommendations.

If you have to combine several tasks, ask if there is a bonus. The boss needs to understand that extra work pays.

• Submit another candidate. The boss, who took office a week ago, will need time to orientate himself. As a result, an employee who sits next to you or has a reputation for being trouble-free will receive strange tasks: make coffee, call a taxi, order train tickets. Tell the manager that you do not perform such functions, but tell me the number of the employee responsible for buying tickets or calling a taxi.
• Ask for help. There are force majeure situations. You sum up the year. And during this period, the legislation changed and it is necessary to obtain new documents or re-register certificates. Saying “no” to your boss in such a situation is stupid. As a specialist, you understand what penalties will follow for non-compliance. In this case, you agree, but require an assistant. Be sure to explain for what purpose you need a person.

• . If behind the reliability is the fear of losing your job, then get over yourself. To do this, conduct an internal monologue. Make a hypothetical list of consequences after rejection. Work out the steps for each. If you get fired, make a resume and send it to competing firms. If the leader yells, listen and calmly argue the refusal. So you will overcome fears and be ready for any decision of the leader.

Saying “no” to your boss is easier than you might think. The main thing is to understand why you want to refuse. This is laziness, unwillingness to help the boss, personal dislike for the leader, or really a necessity.