How to learn to think positively in order to change your life for the better. We train positive thinking

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How happy you are does not depend on external circumstances, but on your thinking. We offer you to get acquainted with 11 ways that will help you look at life with optimism.

1. Switch your attention away from negative thoughts

Negative thoughts have tremendous power. They destroy our mood, motivation and joy. Therefore, do not give them energy. This is not difficult to do - you just need to divert your attention from negative thoughts. Of course, this does not mean that there will be no more of them. But they will no longer have a significant impact on you. Here's how it works: when you find yourself having thoughts of difficult events, fears, self-criticism and the like swirling in your head, mentally cross them out and switch to something positive. Negative thoughts are only harmful, so there is no point in cultivating them and wasting time on them.

2. Smile

Some people go through life with a sullen expression on their face, while others smile even for a minor reason. And the latter are always happier. Why? The reason lies in the smile itself: scientists have found that it contributes to the release of hormones of happiness. The brain also receives information from the facial muscles about how you feel. Smiling relaxes and makes us happy, which allows us to look at things positively.

3. Look for the good in a situation

Almost any life situation is a medal that has a light and dark side. Obstacles can be perceived as a challenge, mistakes as a valuable experience and the need to learn something. For example, when you can't find a free parking space near your house, you have a choice: either get angry or enjoy the walk home. If the store does not have the product you need for the recipe, you can experiment with other ingredients. Of course, in some life situations it is difficult to find pluses - dismissal, parting with a loved one. But even they can be seen as a chance to radically change your life. Therefore, it is better to start thinking positively by training in small situations, then it will become much easier to deal with major troubles.

4. Keep a gratitude journal

Even when things go wrong, there is always something to be grateful for. Get a beautiful notebook and write down all the positive little things that you need to enjoy: a roof over your head, a refrigerator with food, having a job, health, purring a cat, sunny weather, and so on. You can do 3 entries in the morning, 3 in the evening. Let them repeat - it doesn't matter. Soon you will see how your thoughts flow in the mainstream of optimism and joy.

5. Dose the news

Disaster reports on television, radio, in social networks quickly create the feeling that everything around is bad. But besides tragedies and violence, there are a lot of positive events, only the media pushes them into the background. To reduce the flow bad news, dose them: read the headline and summary or unsubscribe from those channels where terrible news pours like from a cornucopia. Don't let negativity seep into your mind and soul.

Our thinking also largely depends on the environment. When someone around complains and whines, we involuntarily absorb the negative message and begin to scroll through it in our thoughts. And vice versa - cheerful, cheerful people make us happier. Therefore, do not be afraid to revise your environment: communicate less with grumblers, spend more time with optimists.

7. Say goodbye to being a victim

Thinking positively means taking full responsibility for your own life. Say goodbye to thoughts that you are a victim of circumstances, that other people are to blame, or a bad fate. In fact, the steering wheel of your life is only in your hands! When you fully understand this, it will be much easier for you to make decisions and see new opportunities.

8. Avoid comparison

The neighbors have a beautiful apartment and a big car, a colleague is slimmer and prettier, and a relative is much more successful in her career. Comparing ourselves to others makes us unhappy, switches our thoughts to negative points, and starts the process of soul-searching. But you can compare yourself with people who are doing worse, but do it infrequently. Basically, our thoughts concentrate on the success of people we know and flow into self-criticism. Doing this, of course, is not worth it.

9. Highlight Your Achievements

In our life there are always achievements, even the smallest ones. Make a list of your successes: finishing school, college, getting a driver's license, getting out of a difficult situation, having children, moving into your own home, completed projects, and so on. When you start to analyze the past, you will see how many achievements and successes there are in it. Feel free to add little things to the list, for example, “baked a delicious cake”, “did a spring cleaning”. Such a leaf will be a solid foundation for positive thinking and self-love.

Man is the product of his thinking, what he thinks is what he becomes.
Mahatma Gandhi.

I often hear such phrases from those around me: “be positive”, “you need to think positively” and others. But do people really understand the meaning and essence of what how to think positively and why? Putting on the mask of a positive "superman" and being one are completely different things. Looking around, you can see the faces of people who express various emotions, for example: concern and joy, sadness and happiness, anger and peacefulness, boredom and interest ... But seeing sincere happiness or satisfaction in the eyes is a rare occurrence. “Be positive” is now in trend. And few people want to communicate with a negatively minded person or a dull crybaby. And yet everyone under the positive understands something of their own. Many can put a smile on their face, but not everyone can put a smile, happiness and positivity in their heart. You can put on a positive mask as much as you like, if at the same time “cats scratch at your soul”, and you are engaged in self-flagellation or self-abasement, then the mask will forever remain a mask and sooner or later will subside. All this is just different ways deception, we can successfully deceive others or even ourselves, but this will not change the fact that positive thinking and quality internal and external changes it is best to come through self-awareness and deep inner work.

Let's figure out how to think positively, how positive thinking can affect your life and why, if you think positively, thoughts materialize.

How to think positively and achieve peace of mind

How often do you hear the phrase “thoughts are material”? And indeed it is. Many of you must have noticed that when the mood is “on the rise”, then life becomes easy, simple and pleasant. All problems are solved as if by themselves, there are positive-minded people who are ready to help and support, everyone around is friendly and nice, and the world seems to be smiling at you. And vice versa, when the mood and thoughts leave much to be desired, then life is not a joy, the space around seems to confirm your sad thoughts and contributes to their realization. That is why it is so important to think positively! Positive thinking helps change your life in better side to achieve inner peace and harmony.

IN Lately I had to communicate with a large number of negatively inclined people, I really wanted to help them and make it clear that sometimes their troubles and sufferings flow and materialize from their own heads. Trying to convey the idea of positive thinking and looking at people, I saw the following: some people say: “Yes, everything is bad with me, but Vaska’s neighbor is even worse and this makes me feel good (easier), because my problems are compared to the problems of others not so scary - you can live.

Others say: “Everything is bad with me and I don’t give a damn about bad or good for others, I only care about my own life, my problems and my experiences.”

Still others say: “Everything is bad with me and it won’t get better, everything good has already been chopped off by those rich people who are mad with fat, or those sectarians who are out of their minds, or those who have a higher salary, or those who have grass the lawn is greener, and so on.”

And there are also those who understand the power of positive thinking, but cannot control their thoughts, saying something like this: “Yes, you need to think positively in order to change your life, but I don’t know how, because I have a lot of problems; I don’t know where to start, or I don’t know how to remake myself, break it, or where to find time to work on myself; yes, you need to think positively, because Katya thinks positively, and she succeeds and everything is fine with her, which means I can too, but what can I do for this? Is there anything else that needs to be done to do this? And I’m too lazy (it’s difficult, scary, there’s no time) ”... Did you recognize yourself somewhere?

And now, based on the categories described, let's figure it out, how to think positively to change your life.

So, let's start ... We found out that people can plunge into negativity in different ways, some begin to elevate themselves above those who are worse off than themselves, others envy those who are better off, others are generally indifferent to everything and everyone except their own person. Shantideva's words immediately come to mind:

« All the happiness that exists in the world comes from wanting happiness for others. All the suffering that exists in the world comes from the desire for happiness for oneself.»

Based on these words, we can conclude that the more you wish and do good to others disinterestedly, the more good then returns to you, and in the end everyone is happy and everyone wins. But for this it is necessary to say goodbye to such obscurations as envy, anger, pride, laziness, fear, and bring more altruism, compassion and awareness into your life.

An analytical and evaluative approach to the current situation, a sincere belief in the best and awareness of the law of Karma also helps to achieve peace of mind. I know that when negative events happen to me, it just boils away negative karma. This process can be accelerated or slowed down, but karma will still have to be exhausted. And when positive events occur in life, I understand that this is a reward for my good deeds and actions. This helps to let go of any feelings and move on, working on yourself.

Of course, sometimes awareness is not enough to sensibly assess the situation and draw the right conclusions from the lessons that have happened. Then I switch to "standby mode". I just do what I have to do, what I need to do, block out negative thoughts (just don’t let them get into my head) and do practices that can ease the internal state - this can be hatha yoga, taking a hot bath or listening to lectures on yoga and a healthy lifestyle, reading spiritual and developmental literature. Gradually, inner heaviness and fatigue subside, it becomes easier physically and energetically, there is a desire to do something for the good and strength for awareness and conclusions.

Sometimes this phrase inspires me: "If there is a goal - go to it, if you can't go - crawl, if you can't crawl - lie down and lie in the direction of the goal." The main thing is not to give up, difficulties are always temporary, and if you give up and give yourself an indulgence or 100 indulgences, it will not get easier, you just have to go through these lessons and this path again, because every indulgence, weakness or negative thought is a step back from the goal, from feeling inner happiness and integrity. This does not mean that you should not relax and rest. But even rest can be chosen such that it will please and reinforce a positive attitude towards life, and at the same time bring good.

All this helps to shift the focus of concentration from one's own suffering and experiences to actions to change and process the current situation. When you realize that everything that happens to you is the result of your actions and deeds in the past, then the question no longer arises: “WHAT FOR ME?” Now you can stop and understand WHY this situation has come to you, and draw appropriate conclusions. With the realization of these simple things comes peace of mind and balance, because everything happens as it should, but there are always ways to change your life, karma and thoughts for the better, redirecting your actions in a more benevolent direction.

How to start thinking positively

In fact, to start thinking positively, you just need to start! Start celebrating positive moments in life: celebrating what makes you happy, instead of celebrating what makes you sad; focus on what you have, instead of wishing for endless blessings and experiencing envy; it is important to praise yourself for successes, even for the smallest things, but also to perceive adequately constructive criticism in order to change the negative points! You can also make a list of positive thoughts that support and inspire you. Getting started can be difficult, but anything is possible! Try to start the day with a smile and gratitude for the precious birth, and in the evening before going to bed, remember what good happened in your life today and what good you did. Gradually, you will learn to celebrate the positive without even thinking about it, you will see the good in people or see in their actions an example of how to behave and how not to behave, to learn lessons even from unpleasant situations. Feelings of guilt in front of this world, other people and yourself will be replaced by awareness of your causality and calmness. And if think positively, thoughts materialize in a positive way, and life in general will become easier and more enjoyable.

A very important point in positive thinking - do not draw bright pictures for yourself, how everything is fine with you and how wonderful you are, how wonderful everyone is around and how you love everyone, and they love you. To think in pictures means to leave your energy and part of yourself in the imagination. In fact, when our attention is stuck in what is no longer there (past), in what is not yet (future) or simply in the non-existent present (imagination), then the energy simply flows away, and there is no sense in these visualizations, but there is harm. For our mind, it does not matter in which reality you will be happy, in real or imaginary, and it will happily fantasize everything for you! And when you return to the real reality (I apologize for the tautology), it will be painful to realize the discrepancy between the imaginary and the real, sad from the useless waste of time and mental energy. Approach visualization consciously and meditate. To really start changing your life, raise your consciousness to a different, qualitatively new level, stop running away from reality, accept it as it is and start acting! Any action starts in the head, allow yourself to think positively. The world will not collapse if you become a little happier! Define a goal, create a plan to achieve that goal, and start thinking positively as you achieve it! Start small and move on to bigger. Feel small positive feelings within yourself and big positive thoughts will arise. Then you will understand how to think positively in any difficulties. In this practice of positive thinking, as in many other activities, experience and practice are important. After all, if you want to pump up the press, then you will perform exercises to strengthen it and make great efforts to achieve your goal, so in this particular case, hard practice is needed to learn to think positively and do it right.

How to force yourself to think positively

Our life is sometimes unpredictable, and sometimes it is not possible to predict when and where the next lesson will lie in wait for you. How to think positively in any difficulties? Start small, because "a journey of 1,000 miles begins with one step."

Learning to let go of negativity. The practice of yoga and concentration will help you with this. When we do asanas on the mat, it increases our awareness and releases hidden energy resources. Redirect your energy in a good direction - learn how to perform concentration on an object, a candle flame, water ... The practice of concentration helps you to be more collected and teaches you to control your attention. Thus, you will learn how to quickly and painlessly switch to positive thinking.
Learn to accept the positive. The problem with some people with a lack of positive thinking is that they consider themselves unworthy of better. Therefore, it is extremely important to accept yourself as you are without undue self-flagellation. Try to evaluate yourself from a position positive qualities and qualities to work on. Highlight the main thing and start working on yourself, praise yourself for your successes - this will help to form the habit of positive thinking and save you from a number of unnecessary complexes. Accept the positive and change the negative. There is such Eastern wisdom: “If you don’t like the situation, change it, if you can’t change it, then change your attitude towards it.” And indeed, if you are not able to change something, then what is the point of lamenting about this?
Learn to ask the right questions for yourself. Listen to people who complain about life... What are they talking about? Of course, about YOUR unhappy life, about YOURSELF! Do you think these people have nothing more to say? Of course have! Try asking this person a question: “What good thing happened to you today?” And the person immediately switches his attention to the positive. You need to ask yourself this question more often. If the answer is not satisfactory, then ask another question: “What can I do to change the situation? What lessons have I learned today? What conclusions can be drawn? What can I do to be happier? What is true happiness for me? What can I do for family, friends, the world to experience happiness?” By answering these or similar questions, you will realize many interesting things about yourself.
We learn to rest. Inner work, like outer activities, can be tiring, so take care to provide yourself with quality rest. Do yoga, take a walk in nature, chat with like-minded people. At the same time, rest is not lying on the couch in front of the TV, various parties with the use of intoxicating and intoxicating substances, as well as communication with people who lead you to degradation and even greater immersion in negative thoughts. If you want to have more energy and a higher quality of life, rest properly.
Learn to do well for yourself. Do the things that benefit you. This is where asking the right questions can help. For example: eating 5 chocolates may be delicious, but how good is it for your body? Eat right, get enough sleep, do exercises that energize you. Try to associate with sane, positive-minded people who have a positive influence on you.
We learn to praise ourselves, to celebrate the good in ourselves. Celebrate the positive events in your life and your good deeds that have benefited other living beings. This will guarantee your good mood and inner uplift. Over time, you will find that it will be difficult for external factors to influence your mood in a negative way.
Learning to be good to others(selflessly). Try to just smile at people. Studies have shown that when we meet a smiling person, we involuntarily begin to smile ourselves, as if we are “infected” with his good mood. I am always pleased to see a smile in return, and at the same time my own happiness does not become less if I share it, but it becomes very pleasant in my soul from the realization that it has become easier for someone, and he will go into the world with a better mood and, perhaps , will also “infect” someone with happiness. Over time, you will want to do good things for other people more and more often.
Learn to celebrate the good in others. To make the world brighter, kinder and more pleasant, try to notice in the people around you their good qualities, thus you give them the opportunity to express themselves from the best side.
Recharging in nature. For me, yoga and nature are the best recharge and inexhaustible sources of energy. With the help of yoga, you can change your inner energy and raise it up, and in nature you seem to be saturated with the energy of the sea, forest, ocean, mountains, rivers, earth and clear sky ...

I hope this story will be useful for you and help you start thinking positively through self-awareness. Get Started! And you will understand for yourself how to think positively and live to the fullest.

What good thing happened in your life today?

Do you have the impression that nothing is working for you? Everything worries you, and you no longer want to do new exploits? It seems that negative thinking is weighing on you. It's time to change that and teach you how to think positively and live!

You might be asking: how to do it? After all, being an optimist is very difficult and not feasible ... It is not necessary! Below you will find some tips to help you start thinking and living positively. Maybe thanks to them you will become an optimist?

How to think positively and live?

Remove energy vampires from your environment.

These are people who are always wrong. They always criticize, complain, and even if you succeed in something, they cannot appreciate it, but they try to find the negative side of things by force. These people are dragging you down. You shouldn't date energy vampires that suck the good energy out of you. It is necessary that in your immediate environment there are only such people who are friendly to you. It may not be easy, but in the end it should work. Start by discarding unscrupulous “friends”.

Find a reason to live.

Life is worth living in order to live beautifully. But if that's not enough, find something that makes every day meaningful. Family, work, school, girlfriend/boyfriend, what is your passion? All this can be a good reason to get up in the morning with a smile on your lips.

Learn to forgive.

How to think positively and live if you are a perfectionist? Try to calm down. Too perfect approach to business, especially when something does not work out, can actually generate black thoughts. And this is not necessary. What happens if you leave? The world will not collapse. Of course, try to do everything as best as possible, but everything to the best of your ability.

Smile.

For myself, for people around, on the street, at school, at work. gives positive energy. If you pass it on, it will return to you. With the help of a smile, you can not only change your day, but also make the day somehow different, positive. Smiling and laughter are like medicine - they remove worries into the shadows, and help turn failures into a joke.

Don't worry about "what people will think".

Caring about the opinions of others is low. Of course, it's good to live in such a way as not to offend anyone, but in the event that you do this, you have to worry about someone's reaction. Also, try to act in such a way that others have the joy of being with you, but don't try to please anyone by force.

Enjoy the little things.

A sunny morning, a good breakfast, a greeting from a neighbor, green leaves on the trees, a walk with the dog - all this is good to focus on, so that after a while, feel stronger, the world around us and enjoy the little things. They are what make up our lives.

Learning how to think positively and live is not that difficult. Enough to try. Be yourself and try to be calm about reality. Instead of assuming the worst, tune in to the best - such a life position will attract positive events!

What a man thinks, so he lives. In ancient times, it sounded like this: “What is inside, so is outside. As below, so above." Each person receives exactly as much as he allows himself to have. Everyone lives exactly as he sees it in his head. Negative thoughts can only harm the one who scrolls them in his head. Even experienced magicians refuse to send curses at someone, because they understand the action. Only common man remains to be studied this topic to learn to think positively and attract success.

The idea that positive thinking helps in achieving a happy and successful life was once popular. Everyone who has delved into the essence of this mechanism has already achieved their goals. The rest were only disappointed that they did not manage to magically realize their desires.

Site specialists psychological help The site wants to highlight the most important mistake of those who wanted to achieve goals through positive thinking, but never did this:

It is necessary not only to think positively, but also to take actions in order to achieve something.

And many people began to think that you can do nothing, but just lie down and scroll positive thoughts in your head. Zeland's idea of "reality transurfing" is also connected here, who also paid more attention to human thinking. So many people thought that they could influence with the power of thought the world, which will change and adapt to their desires.

The mechanism is actually very simple: in order to achieve success, a person needs to think positively, that is, set himself up for success, encourage, motivate and be sure to act. Goals are not realized without the actions of the person himself. And actions are performed depending on how and what a person thinks. It's that simple.

How to learn to think positively?

Life is not always as bright and beautiful as we would like to see it. Absolutely everyone faces various difficulties and troubles that naturally cause negative. The mood drops, and negative thoughts begin to appear in the head. Here we are talking about a person who became a victim of circumstance. However, there are individuals who do not want to be led by the outside world. They have learned to think positively, which allows them to find their way in any situation. best way out for myself.

To learn to think positively, a person must understand that it is he who chooses what thoughts to think. Undoubtedly, scientists say that a person thinks over a thousand different thoughts during the day, most of which are generally imperceptible to consciousness, rush through a person’s head. However, the fact that a person does not pay attention to his thoughts and does not want to control them is his choice.

Positive thinking is the choice of a person who has decided to scroll thoughts of a certain nature in his head. It requires effort, concentration and attention. A person must constantly be in a conscious state in order to identify a flashed thought in time, realize it, understand the meaning and meaning, the reasons for its occurrence, and then change to other ideas, if necessary.

It is difficult for a person to be constantly in a conscious state. Psychologists say that most time a person lives on the machine. Thoughts and actions are performed automatically, out of habit. And only then, when the consequences arise, the person understands what he did, but many actions can no longer be corrected and forgotten.

For positive thinking, a person must learn to “not sleep”, but to live consciously. He controls what thoughts to think. Why is it so important? Thoughts affect the emotions that arise in a person, and emotions, in turn, affect the choice of actions that the individual ultimately performs. The results obtained are evaluated (these are also thoughts), and the evaluation again causes emotions, and emotions - actions, etc.

A person lives in accordance with the thoughts that rush through his head. Usually he does not control them and does not even notice. Under the influence of thoughts, negative or positive emotions arise, and they already cause the corresponding energy, which makes a person perform certain actions. These actions form the events in which a person lives. These events may or may not be desirable. But not all are formed by the man himself. And those who want to achieve success must learn to control their own thoughts, think only about what will evoke the right emotions and encourage the right actions.

Before moving on to the principles of positive thinking, I still want to make a digression in defense of negative thoughts. Note that "positive" and "negative" usually refers to what is acceptable or unacceptable in society. In this article, we will understand by “positive” what brings you the desired benefit, success. And if some bad thoughts, negative emotions or destructive actions give you the desired result, then this will also be called “positive”.

So, to think positively, you need:

Surround yourself with people who think positively, like you, and believe in their success. All other people will only oppress you, deprive you of energy and even pull you down to the bottom. Get rid of the harmful environment.
Exclude everything that causes negative emotions. It can be people, movies, situations. It is impossible to completely avoid unpleasant situations, so it is recommended here to identify that negative emotions are appearing, and then move on to control your own thoughts and emotions.

How to deal with trouble? Why fight anything? Why not love what comes with adversity (wisdom, experience)? And if something still does not suit you, then you can not fight, but create, create something beautiful, so that the unsightly becomes pleasant, and the bad ceases to have any meaning.

The man is used to fighting. If he doesn't like something, he immediately becomes defensive. But is it possible to create something good on the battlefield? Have you ever seen flowers grow and birds sing in a place where a war is being fought? Good must be created, and not fought with the bad in the hope that the good will create itself. To have new house not only destroy the old building, but also build a new one. In other words, it is necessary not only to fight against something, but also to prepare for the development of good, its creation, creation with one's own hands. You yourself destroy everything bad, but you yourself must create the good. Only by eliminating something unsightly, the good will not appear on its own.

Fight or find positive moments in the new state? Sometimes you don't have to fight anything. Many people are afraid of trouble for some reason. But what is so bad about them? Troubles have their advantages, for example, gaining experience, new knowledge, learning about the previously unknown. You can't ask a child how to get ahead career ladder, but the experience of the old man will be interesting.

Often people are afraid of something because they have been told to be afraid of it. This is where they start to fight. But for what? Some things you just need to accept, love them for what they are. But if something really doesn’t suit you (for example, your poverty), then start creating, moving forward, creating yourself what you want to have. In war, flowers will never grow until you stop fighting and plant them yourself.

Man himself is responsible for the life he lives. And first of all, he is responsible for the thoughts that rush through his head. The ways of their formation are as follows:

In childhood, parents and society impose their opinions on all children. We are told how we should relate to this or that phenomenon, how we should react and act. These thoughts are called attitudes, beliefs. What happens if you doubt your own beliefs? Then a person will have to constantly think and decide for himself what is good and what is bad for him.
The assessment that a person puts to a particular phenomenon evokes corresponding emotions and actions. For some, the destruction of the house will be a tragedy, and for another - an opportunity to build a new, more durable building. The event is the same, but the attitude towards it is different people miscellaneous. Depending on the attitude to the situation, people will behave differently.

Thoughts provoke emotions, and they, in turn, induce to perform specific actions. The result of actions is the consequences with which a person lives, evaluates them and again performs some actions. All this forms the future in which a person lives. Accordingly, happiness is in the thoughts of the person himself, who creates or destroys, builds or breaks.

How to attract success?

Every person wants to feel own significance. Achieving success is a kind of becoming a person, when he brings something good for the whole society, for the circle of his friends and relatives. Everyone wants to be successful, but not everyone achieves it. And there are several important factors here.

How to achieve success? Engage your subconscious. After all, this part of a person manifests itself in absolutely everything: in his movements, reactions, the emergence or rapid decrease of energy, the desire or unwillingness to argue, etc. It is necessary that the subconscious mind be as interested in achieving the goal as your conscious part is interested in this. And in order to use the subconscious, you must remember that it is strongly influenced by hidden fears, disappointments, desires.

Many people know cases when subconscious fears interfered with the realization of the desired. For example, a person wants to be rich, but subconsciously he is afraid of this, because he is convinced that money is evil. The subconscious mind is against it, so a person will most likely not do anything to realize his conscious desire. In this case, the subconscious is not just against the fulfillment of the goal, but does everything so that the person makes mistakes, does nothing. That's why you can want something, but constantly face difficulties, make wrong decisions and make mistakes. Your subconscious mind is protecting what it is interested in, not your conscious mind.

When your subconscious desires what the consciousness desires, then you will begin to act unambiguously towards the realization of your goals and success.

Success is also influenced by the thoughts that a person scrolls in his head. Since unpleasant situations cannot be avoided, you should learn to find positive aspects in every problem:

Or the situation is given to you to gain experience.
Or it helps you learn something new.
Or it points to your erroneous judgments.

Positive thinking is an art that needs to be learned. Observe the following rules:

Look for the positive in everything.
Do not be exposed to the bad mood of others.
Don't run away from problems, solve them.
Choose the people you surround yourself with.
Be decisive and courageous.
Plan before doing anything.
Understand the causes of your negative thoughts.
Don't let fear control you.
Raise your mood if it has fallen.
See each situation or result as an experience.
Don't blame yourself for mistakes.
Do not accumulate negative emotions.
Engage yourself in things that bring positive emotions.
Rest.

You should not treat events biased, habitually, automatically. If you are used to having a negative attitude towards alcoholism, then stop doing it. Look at the situation without judgment. Then you may find new ways out of a situation where a person is abusing. Bias closes you off from the variety of options for solving a problem. Positive thinking sets you up to look for an option that will allow a person to get rid of bad habit under specific conditions.

Not all bad things are negative. Usually even in the bad you can find something good.

Results of Positive Thinking

Thinking adjusts a person to the way of life that he constantly thinks about. If you think bad things, then bad things will happen. If you think about the good, then there will be ways to achieve joy. Positive thinking helps a person to live happily. The most important thing is to understand the essence of the mechanism of its influence.

Positive thinking can help you not only get rid of stress, but also improve your overall health. In addition, positive thoughts help to achieve success in life, as they direct our energy in the right direction. But how do you learn to think positively? How to get rid of thoughts full of negativity?

A classic example of a "psychological" definition of our attitude to life is expressed in the question: "Is the glass half full or half empty?" When we respond without thinking, our response may reflect our subconscious tendencies towards reality.

Interestingly, the influence of optimism and pessimism on human health has been confirmed. scientific research. Optimism is closely related to positive thinking (positive thoughts), which greatly helps a person in dealing with stress. The ability to withstand stressful situations brings a lot of benefits to our health, while negative thoughts can even lead to illness (I think you, dear reader, have come across this, heard about it, or perhaps even had your own experience of negative impact of negative thoughts and emotions on health).

If you consider yourself a pessimist and are wondering how to develop positive thinking, read on; we will look at the methods and techniques of positive thinking.

The Psychology of Positive Thinking

Positive thinking does not mean forgetting about the real problems of life and ignoring the troubles. Thinking positively means treating them more productively, looking for an alternative way out or solution. You can characterize this with the following phrase: "Everything that happens is for the better."

The foundations of positive thinking, first of all, include the so-called. self-talk is such an endless stream of unspoken thoughts that constantly flows in our head. It is not always connected, but almost never stops. This flow goes on "machine", and constantly produces positive or negative thoughts. The flow is very heterogeneous: sometimes it is logical and rational, sometimes it is emotional, sometimes it is based on incorrect information, but, nevertheless, it takes place (a simple example: when someone is said badly about someone, we can unconsciously start to think badly about the person too, although we don’t have any confirmation that a person is really “bad” - it’s just that thinking is arranged in such a way that it easily clings to the negative).

By now, you have probably already noticed with what “sign” most of the thoughts of your inner flow? If most of them are negative, then your attitude towards life is pessimistic. Hence the simple conclusion - to become an optimist, cultivate positive thoughts!

What for?

Yes, some people are well aware that they are pessimists in life, and they even like it. Sorry guys, I won't bother you. If you want to change your attitude, you want to start thinking positively, then start small - namely, what good is positive thinking?

The most “tangible” benefits can probably be understood from how positive thinking will affect health:

Increased life expectancy
Decreased levels of depression
Reducing the amount of sadness in life
Great resistance to colds
Improving psychological and physical well-being
Reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
Improving coping skills and coping with stress

However, it is not at all clear why good thoughts are so helpful in improving health. The theory of positive thinking is that an optimist is better able to face and cope with difficult situations in life, and this naturally reduces Negative consequences similar situations on physical and psychological health. It is believed that optimistic people live longer healthy life, because more physically active, often eat healthier foods, smoke less or not at all, do not abuse alcohol.

Since I am active, some psychological and energy correlations can be traced between such things as positive thinking and a healthy lifestyle, but this is a topic for a separate article.

How To Tell If You Are Thinking Negatively?

Filtration. You emphasize the negative aspects of a situation while weeding out the positive ones. For example, the day was very successful, everything went well, but you forgot to do one little thing. In the end, you focus on what you forgot to do, not paying attention to how well the day went overall and how much you got done.

Individualization. When something bad happens, you blame yourself. For example, a person refused you something because he was unable to help, but you think that he simply does not like you.

Dramatization. Whatever the deal, you always assume the worst case. If you are badly served in a cafe in the morning, it seems to you that the whole day has been down the drain.

Polarization. You look at everything in terms of good-bad, black-white. You do not see the "golden" mean. It seems to you that you need everything to be perfect, or it will be a complete failure.

Positive Thinking Training

The cool thing is that positive thinking can be “trained”. You can learn to get rid of negative thoughts by turning them into positive ones. The process is not difficult, but it takes time and practice to master it, because here we are talking about creating a new habit.

Define areas of change. You need to find those areas of your life that especially provoke negative thoughts. It could be your job, neighbors, family. Start small - focus and work on one area, changing thoughts from negative to positive.
Check yourself. Periodically, during the day, stop and evaluate your thoughts - what are you thinking about? If you notice negative trends, find a way to bring in the positive.
Humor is helpful. Laugh at jokes, smile more often, especially if difficulties come. Yes, it's not easy, but once you start doing it, you will feel the full power of this simple approach. By the way, laughter great weapon against stress.
Practice a healthy lifestyle. Oddly enough, but the state of our physical body directly affects our psychological health. The better the physical health, the more bright thoughts in the head - verified by our own experience!
Surround yourself with optimists. Communication is the most powerful thing that affects our psychological state, up to the formation of new habits and behaviors. By the way, this may be one of the most simple ways solving the problem of negative thinking. Why do you think monks live together? Because it is much easier to follow the harsh vows. The power of synergy.
Cultivate positive thoughts. Everything needs practice. If you just get into the habit of changing the flow of thoughts from a minus sign to a plus sign, then after a while you will find that you need to change less and less, because. you naturally begin to think positively.

Here are some examples of how to do it:

I've never done this before - It's an opportunity to learn something new.

This is too complicated for me - I'll try to approach the problem from a different angle.

I don't have the resources - Goal is cunning.

I'm too lazy - I didn't have the time to find time for this, but I'll try to prioritize differently.

It won't work - I'll try to make it work.

These are too global changes - Let's try what will come of it.

No one communicates with me - Let's see who we manage to establish contact with.

I can’t do it better - An attempt is not torture (if not the last :)).

How to learn to think positively? Just practice it day in and day out; it won't happen overnight; but over time you will find that your outlook on things has changed, you have become calmer and . Just take it and do it - after all, no one but yourself is the creator of your destiny.

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